You can’t expect your partner to just magically know what you want in bed. Mind-reading isn’t a skill, but talking dirty? Now, that’s an art. 😏
So let’s fix that. It’s time to stop faking satisfaction, stop leaving things to chance, and start telling your partner exactly what turns you on. Welcome to the ultimate guide to bedroom communication—Pookie style. 🔥
You wouldn’t let your barista guess your coffee order, so why let your partner guess what gets you off? Speak up, babe—because your pleasure matters.
Here’s how to drop the awkwardness and turn communication into foreplay. 🔥
Step 1: Get Comfortable Saying What You Like 😏
If you’re shy about talking dirty, start small:
🔥 Practice on your own. Stand in front of a mirror and say things like, “I love when you kiss my neck,” or “I want you to go down on me.”
🔥 Write it down. If speaking out loud makes you nervous, text them. A little sexting never hurt anyone. 😉
🔥 Use “I” statements. Saying “I love when you do that” is sexier than “You never do this.” Positive vibes only, babe.
✨ Pookie Tip: Moaning is communication, too. If you can’t say it yet, use sounds and body movements to guide them. Pull them closer, press against them—let your body talk. 😘
Step 2: Drop Hints Before You Even Get to the Bedroom 👀
🔥 Flirt outside of sex. Say things like, “Last night was hot, but next time, I want you to take control.”
🔥 Send sexy messages. “Thinking about your hands on me… but next time, go slower.”
🔥 Use a movie or book for inspo. “That scene? We need to try it.” 😉
✨ Pookie Tip: Don’t wait for the moment to be right—MAKE the moment right. The more you normalize talking about sex, the easier (and hotter) it gets. 🔥
Step 3: Talk During the Action 🔥
Want them to switch it up in the moment? Guide them.
🔥 Use words like “Yes,” “More,” or “Slower.” These are easy, direct, and sexy AF.
🔥 Make requests sound like praise. Instead of “Can you be rougher?” try “I love when you get rough with me.”
🔥 Use touch to lead them. If you want more pressure, press their hand down. If you want them to go lower, guide them.
✨ Pookie Tip: If you don’t like something, redirect instead of criticizing. Say “I love it when you do [this] instead.” Keep the mood sexy, not awkward. 😏
Step 4: Get That Post-Sex Debrief In 😘
🔥 Right after sex = best time to talk. The vibes are warm, you’re both relaxed—it’s perfect.
🔥 Ask them what they liked. Simple questions like “What was your favorite part?” open up the conversation.
🔥 Share your favorite moment. Say “When you did [that], I almost lost it.” That way, they know to do it again. 😏
✨ Pookie Tip: Make this casual and flirty. You’re not in a performance review—you’re in bed, post-orgasm, and about to go for round two. 🔥
Step 5: Try a Sex Bucket List 😈
Feeling bold? Make a list of things you BOTH want to try—then check them off together.
🔥 Kinks? Positions? Role-play? Toys? Write it down.
🔥 Make it a game. Each of you picks one thing for the next time you’re together.
🔥 Keep it open-ended. If you’re curious about something, put it in the “maybe” category—no pressure, just play.
✨ Pookie Tip: Surprise them. Whisper “Pick something off the list. Right now.” and see what happens. 😏
Final Thought: Say What You Want & Get What You Want 😘
Talking about sex isn’t awkward—it’s hot. The more you own your desires, the better your sex life gets. So go ahead:
🔥 Speak up.
🔥 Get what you want.
🔥 Make every damn time better than the last.
Because at the end of the day? Your Pleasure. Your Way. Be Pookie. 😈🔥
